We all face tough situations from time to time, and it’s natural to feel overwhelmed. As the saying goes, what we focus on expands. Sometimes, that means we unintentionally magnify the problem, spiralling into catastrophising. But I’ve learned through my own work—and with my clients—that the shift from situation to solution is entirely possible with the right approach.
First, it’s about clarity. Many of us skip this step, but I always start with a “Wheel of Life.” This simple tool divides your life into key areas—like health, wealth, relationships, fun, joy, and even looks. We rate each area from zero to ten, and in doing so, we stop running from reality. We get honest about where we are—not worse, not better—just the truth. When we know the situation, we stop adding unnecessary drama. It simply is.
Next, we resist the temptation to overanalyse. We don’t need to obsess over why something happened. The situation is what it is. Instead of spiralling into stress, I guide my clients to pause. We take a breath, meditate, or even walk. It’s only in calmness that solutions appear.
The real magic happens when we start seeing solutions. There is a solution to everything—yes, even the big stuff. But solutions can’t arise when we’re panicked. As a mathematician, my logical brain breaks things down. Our brains are wired to solve. But we can’t access that brilliance under stress. When calm, solutions naturally emerge.
Sometimes, the solution is simple: getting help. Maybe it’s therapy. Maybe it’s working one-to-one with me to break things down into actionable steps. Together, we create a plan. It might be addressing debt, rebuilding a relationship, or overcoming self-doubt. The key is honesty—no judgment, just truth. And from there, we move.
The reason we stay stuck is that we catastrophize, going from situation to stress. But when you trust someone—someone with good intuition and solution-finding skills—you can go from situation to solution. It’s not always easy, but with the right perspective, it’s absolutely doable.
Love Nisha x